Some say it is inevitable. Some say it is just a part of life, and that we should all learn to live with it. Live with what?
People say go find something you’re interested in and do it; then the loneliness will go away.
Others believe that you’re being selfish if you’re lonely, or too self-absorbed.
“Think about somebody other than yourself,” they say. “Somebody’s worse off than you; just look around you,”then you won’t be so lonely, I’ve heard.
“Quit your crying, and complaining; no one wants to hear it.”These delightful tunes seem rather harmonious, particularly to those whom you remind of their own inadequacies and needs, who deny, block out, or ignore what’s really going on inside of themselves, so they can pretend to be strong for others who believe they really are.That way, loneliness doesn’t have to be loneliness;
and pretense doesn’t hav
e to be disgusting, and we can all live happily ever after.
Some people believe that if you just go and find a person who needs you, or a cause to believe in, and just go do something, then you can bust up the gloomies and all will be well.
If you give what you have to make a difference and change things, then you’ll have done your part to make the world a better place, and you’ll be all the better for it….so the story goes. It’s a good story.
I believe in it too. Good Samaritans are needed and still make an impact in a cold, dark world.
All the while I’m thinking; they don’t understand. I know what language you speak. I can speak it too.
But you don’t understand my language.
You’re not even aware I’m talking,
Because you can’t hear yourself.
You’re too afraid to hear yourself.
You’ve learned to turn a deaf ear to your own words,
and you don’t even know you can’t hear.
Because if you really could hear yourself,
then you could hear me, if you were willing to.
Sometimes, no one can touch you.
Sometimes, no one can feel you.
Sometimes, no one can hear you.
Sometimes, there’s just you….. and there’s loneliness.
We should not be so provoked to determine its cause; but rather, loneliness needs someone to respond with arms that embrace it, with something called “compassion.”
Some people say that with God you never feel alone, and you should never feel lonely. Its one thing to not “be” alone; I find this always true.
It is quite another thing to “feel” lonely.
Sometimes there’s just you.
Sometimes there’s just God.
Sometimes…..it feels like there is no one else.
In a magnificent, perfect world,
Things would be different.
But it’s not a perfect world.
Some people just aren’t going to respond.
Even when you need them….
Even when you want them.…
Even when they should…..
Even when they could….
Even when they feel the pain of loneliness….
Even when your heart cries and aches so much….
That all you want is someone to “be” with you.
If we could just offer our “presence” to another, it would be more than most dare give when the heart throbs with the awkwardness of being lonely.
To need someone to walk with you, when all you want
is for them to be near….to be close and say what they mean, and mean what they say, as they try to help. Just to hear someone say, “I see you’re lonely. I know you’re hurting.”
To sit beside someone on their mourning bench, makes all the difference in the world.
Comfort, we all need. Few truly know how to give it. Few want to give it. Most are afraid to give it. Only a few will give it.
If there’s any message at all from loneliness, it’s, “I need you…come walk with me.”
“How can I love God whom I’ve not seen, if I don’t love my brother, whom I have seen?”
Do you understand my language? Ask me more….but only if you want to.
Copyright © 2006. David Hammock. All Rights Reserved.
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